better than expected

Our experiences can be qualified as good, better and best. Of course, I left out bad because I believe we can always find something good in any situation.

What category is “better than expected” in? Good, yes. Better, definitely. Best- maybe? Our expectations color our experiences. If we have modest expectations, we can’t be disappointed when things are “better than expected”. If we have expectations that are hard to satisfy or meet, we could rate the results less than someone else based on our expectations.

Take this little ‘on line’ test to determine how your predetermined responses to others actions allow you to “feel loved” or not feel the warm feelings that are professed by another. This exercise is revealing for couples, parent/child, and all your relationships.http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/

• Words of Affirmation
• Quality Time
• Receiving Gifts
• Acts of Service
• Physical Touch

I did this little exercise about two years ago. It has helped me to become more aware of why I respond better to certain things and how others may be experiencing the same situation but not have the same feelings. It’s very interesting!!!!  And, I think you will find it enlightening, too.:)  It’s individual to each person, how they “feel loved” and if we can find that special combination, we have the key to unlock their heart! Even more importantly, we will understand why we think that some people are “better than expected” or not a good as expected. It is not necessarily anything to do with them per se. It is more about what we subconsciously respond to and our own internal programming.

If you find yourself thinking that a situation or a person is “better than expected”, look a little closer.  Seeing why you feel this way, will serve to heighten your enjoyment.  Being aware of your own perspectives will make you more sensitive to the experiences of those around you.  Your life may become “better than expected”.

As a CPA told me once, there is only one chance to satisfy a customer. He always advised his tax clients that he would finish their work at a later date than he expected he could complete it. By giving them a further deadline, he “always exceeded their expectations” because he could be sure that he delivered early. They were always surprised and pleased to get a call to come in early. You can imagine the reaction to a call to extend his proposed deadline. It’s all about our expectations!

On my last shopping adventure, I ran across this turquoise ring. At first glance, I didn’t appreciate all of the detail that went into the craftsmanship. It was only after I bought it and was wearing it, that someone pointed out…..the hearts. I was so taken with the color of the stone, that I had not see the “extras”. There are four hearts holding the stone.  Another case of knowing what you like and then finding out more about “why”.